There are times when much seems out of your control. The past pandemic year and the oppressive, hateful, life-ending leadership of Trump and his White supremacist family members and crnoies have often seemed uncontrollable, overwhelming, and chaotic, and time and again this can whirl up into a frenzy. That's when you have to step back and think about the areas of life you do have some control over--areas such as your good relationships, personal health, contribution, and possibly community.
In areas where you have some control, you can work for the positive results of good living. This doesn't have to be complex or fancy, but instead it needs to be sincere and well-intended work focused on the opportunities that exist.
For example, in a developing family challenge, there's much I cannot do, but there are definitely actions I can do that are positive. I have to accept the fact that I can't do it all or even manage the process or outcome, but I can contribute in positive ways by being a good listener, providing the supports I'm able to provide, and stepping back when it is out of my realm of ability or capacity.
And with regard to the care of my close family members, there's lots I can do to support their good living now and into the future. And, for contribution on a greater scale, there will be more I can do once I'm vaccinated and the pandemic subsides, but for now, that work for the most part is on hold since I'm somewhat vulnerable to the virus that's spreading.
I'm not sure where that superhuman expectation I feel from time to time came from, but when it hits hard, it does topple me. But then I have to get up, brush myself off, and regain a clear perspective of that flawed and limited individual I am--one who can't do it all, but can definitely do somethings when it comes to positive living now and into the future. Onward.