I'm currently parenting young adult children in transition.
It's a bit worrisome, and I find myself constantly relying on my memory so I can remember back about 30 years ago when I was in a similar transitionary state.
What will they choose?
Are they using a good process?
Are they keeping their values, morals, ideals upfront in this path?
Most important is that I'm there when they want to toss an idea around or talk about their journey.
Next it's important that I remind them of a few factors that help in this process such as the following:
It's a bit worrisome, and I find myself constantly relying on my memory so I can remember back about 30 years ago when I was in a similar transitionary state.
What will they choose?
Are they using a good process?
Are they keeping their values, morals, ideals upfront in this path?
Most important is that I'm there when they want to toss an idea around or talk about their journey.
Next it's important that I remind them of a few factors that help in this process such as the following:
- the pros and cons list
- the ideal life story
- where I want to be in one-year, ten-years perspective
- what's unique about this stage, opportunity that you want to maximize
I'm not in a rush for my children to settle down. I think that life has far too many wonderful opportunities to choose any life choice when you're young, plus the research I've read states that our children will be creating their own jobs, working for themselves, and changing jobs a lot. They need that sense of orienteering, flexibility, open-mindedness, and confidence as they journey to their future.
On the other hand, I don't want them to miss out on great opportunities such as terrific relationships, wonderful mentors, once-in-a-lifetime opportunities, and some practical elements too such as adequate financial, health, and happiness factors.
Further I want them to think about their investment of time and money. Sometimes it's better to invest time for little money for long term gain, and at other times it's better to go for short term financial rewards. One has to think about that.
I won't make the decisions for my children. I will stand by to support and observe the adventure, and try to maintain a positive, supportive attitude throughout this sometimes nerve-wracking and harrowing time in young adults' lives. Onward.