At a point in my life, I recognized that I had developed a deep well of anger. The anger hit me in a suprising way when faced with a challenging situation where there was little support. How did I develop that well of anger? What could I do about that?
I read a lot about anger. I found some of the roots of my anger. Mostly the roots of my anger came from experiences of not being heard or seen in some of life's situations. Rather than listen to my words or see who I really was, some in my life were tellng me who to be and what to say. During this time I burined my feelings thus creating a well of anger that burst when I was challenged later on.
Anger expressed is an embarrassing and potentially dangerous moment that lacks control or focus. And if you experience moments of anger, you have to recognize that anger is a sign that you have to look deeper to understand what's going on and how you can act in ways that better support you and others.
Knowing about anger makes it difficult for me when I witness or experience anger from others. I fear for them and I fear for myself when I see or hear anger expressed. I want to make things better, but often in the face of anger, we may not have what it takes to make better in the situation.
If we can help, we need to let our angry loved ones and friends know that anger is a sign of deeper need and experience, and the best way to move beyond anger is to get underneath it, understand it, and find ways to divert that energy in more positive, life-affirming ways.
To see another's anger for what it is helps you to react to that person with empathy, compassion, and care rather than anger, frustration, or disdain.
Anger is a strong, difficult, frightening emotion; it is a wake-up call for all of us to seek where that anger is coming from and what we can do to redistribute that painful energy in a positive way.