Sometimes as an educator, I had to watch people struggle. Even though we offered substantial support in these cases, the support was dismissed and struggle continued. Of course, if the struggle got to a level of abuse, we would report that to authorities, but struggle that was simply not as good as it could be, but not abusive, would sometimes occur and that was painful to watch.
It is difficult to watch people struggle especially when you know ways to make the situation better. And when you offer solutions and support, and those offers are rejected, this becomes even more difficult to witness. What can a person do in situations like this?
Sometimes you simply have to stand back and stay away. People choose who they want to aline themselves with and who they want to care for them, and those teams support one another in ways they see best. From the sidelines, you may see things differently, but you have to recognize that you don't know the whole story, and there is only so much you can do from the sidelines.
Even for me, I remember someone on the sidelines offering me advice a long time ago with regard to a complex situation. I knew that from the outside it might be perceived differently than what was happening on the inside which was a series of complex events. I didn't listen to the sideliner myself and alined myself with a support team that knew the whole story and coule help me more.
It's difficult to watch people struggle especially when you think that you know a better way, but sometimes all we can do is pray and hope that the struggle will find good resolve with the people and actions those aflicted choose. Onward.