When we project our wants, needs, desires, and expectations on others, we go down a deadly trail. Layering our wants, needs, desires, and expectations on others burdens them and creates conflict for us. As my mom always said, "Everyone leads their own life." We cannot dictate the lives of others.
I think that all of us have probably tried to tell others what to do explicitly or subtly. Why do we do that? Sometimes we think we know better, and other times we may want to share the responsibility and task-at-hand. Yet, unless you're dealing with young children or people without the ability to choose for themselves, you can't expect to project your wants, needs, desires, and expectations on others.
But, what if you still want to do that. Let's say a situation demands more than your attention and you know that the help of others will lessen the burden and better the situation. Isn't that a time to enlist the support of others? That's certainly true, but you won't get that support through commands, but instead collaboration and camaraderie. This is when questioning is better than commands. You can always ask for support, but you can't command it if you want a good working relationship.
Also, what you think is the best solution for a situation may differ greatly from what others believe to be right and good. Our unique experiences leave us with unique perspectives as well. This doesn't mean one person is right and another wrong, but instead, there can be many varying right responses to situations that occur.
So, beware of projection. Understand that in any situation people will bring their unique gifts and experiences. What might not seem helpful at one moment may be exactly what the situation calls for at another moment so beware of judgement too. Do what you can? Work well with others. And, unless there's a grave situation, let matters work themselves out with as much peace as possible. Onward.