Honestly, I own my errors. It's not easy to apologize when you make a mistake, but when that happens, I do own what I do because I know we're all human and we all make mistakes.
It's hurtful when people don't accept your apology and punish you more with silence, isolation, and/or anger. If you've lived long enough you've probably experienced this kind of treatment and you may have even responded similarly at one time or another when you've been deeply hurt or excluded from an event.
Bottom line is that people err, and if they're willing to own their shortcomings and make amends, it's good to be open to those apologies.
What happens, however, if people do cut ties and don't accept those apologies?
That's unfortunate, and typically amounts to a painful loss. Fortunately, if this does happen, it doesn't happen that often.
If you've given the situation your best, you simply have to accept the distance, exclusion, and silence--you can't make people see your side or forgive your missteps as that's up to them.
In the best of situations, we won't face situations like this since we'll tread with love and caution so that we don't make the kinds of mistakes that hurt and distance others. That's the ideal.
The holidays always make me take time to reflect on relationships past and present--the good times and the not so good times. The holidays are time to take stock of who and how you love one another, support one another, and live your life.
For the most part, I believe that simplicity and time allow you to give more in ways that matter. As for past errors, you have to forgive yourself and forgive others. Life is too short not to do that.
It's hurtful when people don't accept your apology and punish you more with silence, isolation, and/or anger. If you've lived long enough you've probably experienced this kind of treatment and you may have even responded similarly at one time or another when you've been deeply hurt or excluded from an event.
Bottom line is that people err, and if they're willing to own their shortcomings and make amends, it's good to be open to those apologies.
What happens, however, if people do cut ties and don't accept those apologies?
That's unfortunate, and typically amounts to a painful loss. Fortunately, if this does happen, it doesn't happen that often.
If you've given the situation your best, you simply have to accept the distance, exclusion, and silence--you can't make people see your side or forgive your missteps as that's up to them.
In the best of situations, we won't face situations like this since we'll tread with love and caution so that we don't make the kinds of mistakes that hurt and distance others. That's the ideal.
The holidays always make me take time to reflect on relationships past and present--the good times and the not so good times. The holidays are time to take stock of who and how you love one another, support one another, and live your life.
For the most part, I believe that simplicity and time allow you to give more in ways that matter. As for past errors, you have to forgive yourself and forgive others. Life is too short not to do that.