As a friend and I spoke today, he noted that we've been having one same conversation for the past five years.
He was right--there's an issue in our midst that we keep entertaining in the same, redundant way with no resolve. It is similar to the way records would skip when we were young.
I was glad that he mentioned that because I want to change the narrative--I don't want to keep repeating the same old, same old for another five years.
Why has this happened?
As I think about it, it reminds me of the snowpant debate we have at school every winter. Teachers debate the merit of students wearing snowpants or not, and the related consequences. It's a yearly debate. Another similar same old, same old conversation is one that relates to children running down the halls at school or my husband and my debate about the heat in our house. I bet everyone can point to repetitive conversations they have time and again.
First of all. this occurs because people disagree, and that they haven't decided that the issue is important enough or they are ready to address the issue in a more systematic way.
The issue my friend and I keep having is a tough issue with no answers. I remember my parents debating this same issue when I was young with no good resolve. In fact, it's an issue that I believe people, in general, have to reimagine. I don't want to share the specifics because it is simply too tender and personal to share on a broader scale.
But I do want to end the repetitive discussion and look at this topic anew. I want to research it more and focus in on the positives rather than the negatives. I want to acknowledge the good work that's out there.
I'm impacted, in part, by a tweet by Dwayne Reed this morning:
Dwayne's question, "What's right with you?" will translate to "What's right with what we are doing on our own and together?" with regard to the topic my friend and I have been discussing over the years.
As I reframe the conversation, I can see that there is so much that is right, and that's good.
Too often, we focus on what we're not doing or should be doing rather than the good work we do each day. So if you do repeat a conversation over and over again, I guess the first step is to reframe the question that lies at the center of the conversation in order to truly think about what is at the root of the redundant topic. Getting to the question that lies at the root of the discussion will probably help you to redirect the discussion going forward. Onward.
He was right--there's an issue in our midst that we keep entertaining in the same, redundant way with no resolve. It is similar to the way records would skip when we were young.
I was glad that he mentioned that because I want to change the narrative--I don't want to keep repeating the same old, same old for another five years.
Why has this happened?
As I think about it, it reminds me of the snowpant debate we have at school every winter. Teachers debate the merit of students wearing snowpants or not, and the related consequences. It's a yearly debate. Another similar same old, same old conversation is one that relates to children running down the halls at school or my husband and my debate about the heat in our house. I bet everyone can point to repetitive conversations they have time and again.
First of all. this occurs because people disagree, and that they haven't decided that the issue is important enough or they are ready to address the issue in a more systematic way.
The issue my friend and I keep having is a tough issue with no answers. I remember my parents debating this same issue when I was young with no good resolve. In fact, it's an issue that I believe people, in general, have to reimagine. I don't want to share the specifics because it is simply too tender and personal to share on a broader scale.
But I do want to end the repetitive discussion and look at this topic anew. I want to research it more and focus in on the positives rather than the negatives. I want to acknowledge the good work that's out there.
I'm impacted, in part, by a tweet by Dwayne Reed this morning:
Dwayne's question, "What's right with you?" will translate to "What's right with what we are doing on our own and together?" with regard to the topic my friend and I have been discussing over the years.
As I reframe the conversation, I can see that there is so much that is right, and that's good.
Too often, we focus on what we're not doing or should be doing rather than the good work we do each day. So if you do repeat a conversation over and over again, I guess the first step is to reframe the question that lies at the center of the conversation in order to truly think about what is at the root of the redundant topic. Getting to the question that lies at the root of the discussion will probably help you to redirect the discussion going forward. Onward.