An argument ensued. One person spoke and another responded. What began as an honest point because the point of fracture. Why? And who was caught in between?
How does this happen?
I watched a movie the other night, where this was the plot. An individual made a claim based on past experience, and rather than fully investigated, the claim was taken as truth which altered the course of life for so many people.
How can we avoid situations like this?
In another example, I knew a group of people who were all trying to do well by a situation, but the people had differing sensitivities, outlooks, capacities. They couldn't see eye-to-eye with the situation, and fracture occurred. Honestly, knowing the people and their varying places in the world, I don't see anyway that they could have found common ground because they were at such different places in regards to problem that occurred.
Yet, do we really will fracture to occur, can't we avoid that.
On the other hand, I've been privy to other groups who simply don't get too entangled. They let each other do their own thing, and resist fracture. This, to me, is a preferable route, but how do you get there?
This is where a healthy distance is a good resolve. As we move ahead in life we move in multiple directions and for good relationships, often a healthy distance is required. When we get too close, we cramp each other styles, snuff out each other's individuality, and step all over each other. Instead, a healthy distance provides the space needed to get along, enjoy each other's company, and see each other anew at gatherings. This is positive.
When fractures occur, often people take sides. In divorce situation, sometimes people choose one spouse over another to remain friendly with and the same may be true with other conflicts. Yet, if fracture does not occur, you do not have to deal with such a choice.
Life will change whether you will it to or not. People will move out and about in multiple directions. To keep relationships, we have to maintain a healthy distance and positive resolve for our times together. Then we won't be faced with taking sides. Onward.
How does this happen?
I watched a movie the other night, where this was the plot. An individual made a claim based on past experience, and rather than fully investigated, the claim was taken as truth which altered the course of life for so many people.
How can we avoid situations like this?
In another example, I knew a group of people who were all trying to do well by a situation, but the people had differing sensitivities, outlooks, capacities. They couldn't see eye-to-eye with the situation, and fracture occurred. Honestly, knowing the people and their varying places in the world, I don't see anyway that they could have found common ground because they were at such different places in regards to problem that occurred.
Yet, do we really will fracture to occur, can't we avoid that.
On the other hand, I've been privy to other groups who simply don't get too entangled. They let each other do their own thing, and resist fracture. This, to me, is a preferable route, but how do you get there?
This is where a healthy distance is a good resolve. As we move ahead in life we move in multiple directions and for good relationships, often a healthy distance is required. When we get too close, we cramp each other styles, snuff out each other's individuality, and step all over each other. Instead, a healthy distance provides the space needed to get along, enjoy each other's company, and see each other anew at gatherings. This is positive.
When fractures occur, often people take sides. In divorce situation, sometimes people choose one spouse over another to remain friendly with and the same may be true with other conflicts. Yet, if fracture does not occur, you do not have to deal with such a choice.
Life will change whether you will it to or not. People will move out and about in multiple directions. To keep relationships, we have to maintain a healthy distance and positive resolve for our times together. Then we won't be faced with taking sides. Onward.