It is difficult to stand up to people you value when they make bad choices or embark on dangerous and destructive paths. It is difficult for many reasons including the following:
- You risk severing a valued relationship
- The person may turn on you
- You may be ousted from a friend group or professional group that you value
Lately I have faced this situation with regards to a number of people I know who many feel are making bad and destructive choices. What can I do?
Poor collegial choices
Colleagues I value for their tremendous, positive efforts that uplifted my children's lives and the lives of many others, have made what seems like poor choices lately. I am not close enough to these colleagues to outwardly discuss their choices with them, however, I am thinking carefully about what they are doing. Their choices are impacting the greater community in worrisome ways. For now, I'm keeping my distance, watching the situation, and thinking. If there actions cross the line when it comes to professional respect and safe, good work, I'll find a way to speak up.
Poor leadership choices
A leader in the state who I've admired seems to be making some poor choices lately. Again, I don't fully understand this, but I am watching and listening. Many who I regard highly have spoken out against this leader. I am empathetic to this leader because I think he has done a lot of good, but I also am cognizant that, perhaps, he's missing the importance of some issues and actions.
Poor life choices
I've noticed similar probably poor choices amongst some who are close to me. Again, I'm paying attention. If I do believe people are in danger, I will speak up.
No matter who we are, who we know, and what we do, we will not always please everyone or do everything right. We will make errors. It is in our best interests to listen to friends, colleagues, and family members who may disagree with us. It is also important to seek consult when we're not sure, adn to check in with friends now and then to make sure we're on a good course. We have to continually right our ship in positive directions. Onward.