My mom would always say, "Everyone lives their own life," as she flexibly dealt with the many choices her six children, many siblings and in-laws, other family members, and friends made. Her flexible attitude served her relationships well as she never tried to micro-manage those around her and simply responded to the many paths they took. This #pandemic Thanksgiving, I've been relying on my mom's wise words a lot as our plans change minute-to-minute due to numbers of people, civid-tests, weather, and more. I've been coaching myself and those around me to simply do the best they can and be respectful about people's many ways of staying safe.
Most people I know are making some calculated risks during the #pandemic holidays so that they can celebrate with a few loved ones. They are creating small pods by way of physical distancing, testing, mask-wearing, and staying close to home. We'll see if those calculations worked in the favor of safety or not. A few I've heard about are rejecting safety measures and making unsafe choices--it will interesting, and hopefully not deadly, to see what happens in those situations.
The bottom line is that this pandemic will hopefully a blip on most our life stories--one that won't sever relationships or health long term, and one where we do respect the fact that everyone lives their own life.