We all learn to deal with conflict first in our homes as children. The way our families deal with conflict is usually the way we first deal with conflict. As a child, some in my midst used the painful silent treatment. I remember one instance, in particular, when the family endured a multi-hour drive in silence. This was so different than our typicaly lively, fun-loving car rides. I still remember the thick and worrisome silence that occurred. Finally, with some humor, the silence broke and we were all relieved.
I'm sure that many of us have experienced and, perhaps, started the silent treatment when disgruntled. Is this a bad thing?
A few years ago when I experienced the silent treatment, I read up on it, and realized that it is a very harmful way to deal with conflict as it is a way of punishing those around you. Of course, the old adage, it's better to stay silent than to say something you regret, is wise, yet you can preface that silence with good words such as "Let me think on that" or "I need some time to let that sink in before I can comment." To simply go silent, is not a positive way to react to conflict.
In general, no matter how you are feeling it's best to keep the lines of communication open with compassion and positivity. You don't have to say a lot, but you can acknowledge your care and concern for one another regularly. And, of course, you can agree to disagree too.
If you want to keep your relationships strong, you'll retire the silent treatment sooner than later. Onward.