I believe that some people think it is frivolous to share your vision for a good life, or perhaps others simply feel that it's not valuable or worthwhile to talk of vision. I believe that some of our essential conflicts in life are rooted in the fact that we don't share our dreams or vision. I think that sharing your life dreams can be a valuable point of understanding and connection for people.
Why?
We think we know each other
People often think they know each other and each other's dreams and vision when in reality they have no idea what one another believe is a good life. If we don't make time to think about who we are and want we want, then share that deeper side of ourselves, we risk the opportunity to have deeper, more fufilling, positive relationships. I recognized this recently as I conjectured about a friend's vision, but when I really started to listen to and observe that friend, I realized that I didn't actually know what that person wants or needs in life. Rather than think we know each other, we need to be constantly curious about each other, and as Oprah Winfrey suggests, see each person as a new baby.
Helping people live their best lives and achieve their dreams is an awesome experience
When we know what people really want in life, we can help them achieve their goals in sensitive, personal ways. This kind of support is life enriching for both giver and receiver.
Understanding each other builds relationship strength
Rather than conjecture, project, or judge one another, when we truly get to know each other in deep ways, we build strong, fufilling relationships. Taking the time to ask meaningful questions and listen to the answers helps us to develop deep and meaningful relationnships.
Notice who wants to know you
We can also choose good friends by noticing who wants to know us. Those will be people who ask us questions and listen to our answers and people who truly value who we are and where we are headed. Making the time to notice who wants to know the real us will help us to choose good people for deep and meaningful relationships.
Sharing the depths of who we are with others helps us to build good relationships and good lives. We can't overlook this. Onward.