Sometimes in all kinds of situations we are left out of the decision making. It could be that there's no real reason why we should be included, and in some cases it may be a relief not to be included. However, in other situations, we do feel left out and discounted when we are not included in the decision making. What do we do when that occurs?
The answer to this question is, it depends.
If the decision is really not your's to make and you are left out of the decision making, you have to accept that fact. If you do feel confident and/or strongly about the decision, you may share your insights and thougths with the words, "I know that this is your decision to make, but I wanted to share my perspective. Please take it or leave it."
If you do not feel confident in sharing your opinion, or if you share your opinion and it is not taken well, you simply do have to take a back step, hold your tongue, and support what you can.
When we are left out of the decision making, we also have to recognize our feelings and realize that arena may not be where we are welcome or where we belong. It might be that to be left out means it's time to use your energy elsewhere.
Recently I was left out of a decision that I thought I would be a part of, but in truth, there was no reason why I had to be included. I did have to take a back step knowing that it wasnt my decision to make, and knowing that a decision with good research and resolve would be made. Now, on the upside, I have energy and time for other focus areas of life. Onward.