As family and friend groups change over time, so do the expectations the members hold have for gatherings and events. How do you keep up with that changing landscape of social relationships?
My signature learning event for this topic happened years ago when my husband and I arrived at a fancy cocktail party dressed in jeans with our children. We didn't realize that it was a dressy affair and children were not invited. I was embarrassed and the host was not too happy.
How can we mitigate embarrassing and upsetting experiences like this?
I think it's best to reach out to the hosts of any occassion with a few questions such as these:
- What's the time frame for the event?
- What's on the agenda?
- What will people be wearing?
- Can I bring something to help out?
- Anything else I need to know?
Of course, you'll want to phrase the questions kindly and respectfully in keeping with the relationship you have with the individual.
Most often, when invited, it's great to go along with the plans set and as they say, "When in Rome, do as the Romans do" to get the full experience of that event and those individuals. Of course, if the event doesn't match your values or principles--you may be better off staying home.
For most of us, the summer will hold many new adventures with friend and family groups changed somewhat by the pandemic year. To question and to be willing to open mindedly enjoy the social events ahead will likely result in a lot of happiness and fun. Onward.