Some people solve problems with the blame game--rather than looking deeply at issues from multiple perspectives with empathy, questioning, research, and accurate information, they simply project blame. This blame game is never positive.
Recently I experienced this when I conveyed a struggle to a friend. The friend quickly blamed the event on a life circumstance rather than deeply listening to the situation. She projected her own experience and outlook on the situation rather than listening to the reality of the situation.
I'm sure I've done that before myself. Rather than separating all of my own experiences from a situation relayed, and hearing the details with an open mind, I'm sure that I've projected my own experiences, mindset, and beliefs instead. This is not a positive path to take. It's much better to hear the experiences, struggles, and quandries of friends and family members with an open, curious mind, and it's best not to project our own experiences and outlok onto others' life experiences, struggles, and strengths.
This open mind creates greater potential and positivity in relationships. I don't want to forget this.