I remember a long time ago when a friendship was going through a dramatic change. I wanted to hold on to the way things had always been. I was frustrated and angry at the change, but looking back that change was inevitable given my friend's new relationships, work, and location. There was no way our friendship would continue exactly as it had been.
I tend to be one that likes to hold on to the way things have always been. I tend to fight change, and that does no one any good. Instead, I want to recognize the inevitable change that will occur--we can identify patterns in life that help us to anticipate these changes.
Recently there has been another change in my life. If I look at that change from a patterns-in-life perspective, the change is not surprising. Changes like these are inevitable. So instead of fighting the change, I'll adapt to it hoping to keep the positivity, but adjust to the many changes in logistics, timing, place, and even intimacy that change creates.
I can look at my parents life and the many changes their lives have included over time. Changes that were more a matter of the fact that life moves on than anything else. So, I believe it's best not to fight change, but adapt instead. That perspective should help to make change more peaceful in the days ahead. Onward.