About a month back, I was greatly hurt by someone I love. I had been hurt like that before, but it had been some time. I read a lot about hurt, and most articles gave the advice to give it time. Now, a month later, I've given it time, and as the articles I read suggested, the pain has ebbed, and I've found some meaning in the episode. I expect that waves of sadness will hit again over time, but getting ahead of the hurt this much has certainly been positive.
Typically when hurt you may own some of the problem as well as others. Also, often when hurt occurs, it truly is no one's fault but instead circumstantial--the way life unraveled without any clear objective or goal to hurt another person. And while hurt can certainly close some doors, it can open other doors of opportunity and new insight--that's the silver lining of hurt.
I'm writing this down because the next time I'm hurt like this, I want to read this reflection, and remember that with time, hurt subsides, and that's good.