Sometimes we will be rejected. That rejections can be as simple as typing in the wrong passcode and being rejected from an account or it can be deep rejection by way of betrayal, harm, and hurt. Like all experiences in life, rejection is a continuum from slight rejections to grave rejections.
What do you do when you are rejected?
First, when rejected, I mainly try again--perhaps the rejection is due to a minor error or mistake and requires a simple correction.
Next, if a simple correction doesn't work, I may have to think deeply about what happened, and try a more comprehensive repair.
After that, if I'm still unsuccessful, I probably will get some help to understand the situation and see what next steps I can take. Rarely do I simply give in to a rejection unless that rejection represents a clear need to take another path. For example I got rejected from my first choice for college, but I had a great second choice opportunity so I simply gave up on that first choice, embraced my second choice, and never looked back. In hindsight, the second choice, in most ways, was probably the better choice. Often a rejection can lead us to a better choice or way of being.
So, as in any problem we face, we have to look for the promise in rejection--what will the rejection lead to and how can this rejection actually better your life and make you a better person. Recently a loved one faced a number of rejections related to a job search. In the end, he ended up with a terrific opportunity, an opportunity probably better than his initial interests. When rejected, we can't give up, but instead persist to find a way to positive acceptance in the arena where we've been rejected.
So as I consider a recent rejection, what will I do?
I've tried a simple correction, but that didn't work. I even tried a deeper correction and consult, and that provided some light. Now I'm going the next step which is to consider exactly how I want that arena of life to play out--this rejection is making me think about what's important to me and how I will honor those priorities in the days ahead. This is important analysis that I may have resisted had I not received this rejection.
In summary, find the promise in the rejections you receive, don't give up, and let those rejections move you to the next positive place in life. Onward.