I am a big fan of keeping family close, but that's not always easy given the variety of jobs, needs, geographic locations, and interess a family might have. There are some strategies that I use to keep our connections close, strategies I want to be mindful of in the days ahead.
What do you need?
I like to ask my close family members what they need, and then if possible, I like to contribute to their needs. This pattern helps to keep our ties close. Typically their needs are small and easy to fulfill. Sometimes the needs are outside of my expertise or ability to meet, and that's when I might direct loved ones to expert agencies or exploration paths to learn more.
Get together
Our family plans a number of family get togethers throughout the year. We try to plan these events so there is something for everyone. The focus of these events is to have fun together and/or to celebrate significant events. We all look forward to these memorable events and these events help us to stay close.
Welcoming home
It is my goal to have a welcoming home, the kind of place that our family feels welcome to visit, stay, and put their feet up.
Respect for each person's priorities, lifestyle, interests, and choices
Rather than be judgemental, I want to be curious, respectful, and interested in family member's choices, priorities, interests, and lifestyles. My mom always said, "Let people live their own lives." I try to embrace that statement as I support my family members.
Beware of too-high or errant expectations
Sometimes we may expect something from others that is not positive or realistic. These too high or errant expectations can create riffs in relationships. Beware of those.
Use a strengths-based approach to relationships
Rather than focus on people's challenges, focus on their strengths, talents, gifts, and wonder. Too often we can become consumed in what people don't have, and that's is not positive for good relationships or strong family ties. Instead find your common ground and enjoy that together.
I want to keep family close and will continue to strive for that in the days ahead. A strong, positive family is a good lifeline in life, a lifeline that brings joy, camaraderie, support, and love. Onward.