A hurtful problem gnawed at me for several months. Then finally, I found a resolve. Honestly, I didn't think I would find a resolve to that problem that weighed on me heavily. I've experienced this cycle with difficult problems before. I tried many solutions to no success, and then one solution finally arrives that solves the problem.
Throughout this problem-solving chapter, there were some promising decisions.
First, I never used derogatory or hurtful/harmful language. I remained as positive as I could be, and I am so happy that I did this.
Next, throughout the problem, I remained honest and never thought I had all the answers. I was focused on process versus right or wrong, and that was good too.
And, I worked against the trouble that judgement, projection, and conjecture can bring to a problem situation. I didn't blame others, but instead kept a curious mindset most of all wondering why the problem persisted and what I could do to change that.
At the resolve, parts of the problem continued to exist and there is still mystery related to the problem elements, but in general, the conclusion has brought me to a better place with less angst and more energy to do the good work possible.
As I analyze this problem journey and the one just before this one, I'm wondering what I've learned about problems.
First, keep your language positive, honest, and transparent. When you engage in secrets, put-downs, conjecture, judgement, projection, and negativity of any kind you set the stage for greater problems.
Next, always consider what is the most loving way to react.
Also, always remind yourself no one has the monopoly on truth and justice, in almost every situation if not every situation, truth and justice is a collective idea, not the idea of one individual.
And, act more than speak. Make sure your actions mirror your values, truth, beliefs, and will for better. Actions do speak louder than words.
Onward.