I naturally thought some friends and family shared dreams I have about good living only to find that many have far different dreams than me. To assume shared values, focus, and dreams is to be shortsighted. Instead, we have to observe and listen to one another to truly understand what dreams for living we share and where our dreams stand miles apart.
Yesterday I spent the day with a family member in an activity that pleased both of us--the activity clearly represented our shared dreams about family. We both had a joyful time. The activity and conversation was directed towards our shared interests in life.
There are other times, however, when I've spent times with loved ones in activities that please one of us, but not the other. Those times are dreadful because the person whose interests are met has to endured the other person's displeasure with the activity and conversation. Events like these clearly point out where you and another are different and can cause grave disruption as well if there's no patience or little respect for one another.
Finding those win-win events where you and another can share in your common interests or events where you introduce one another to something you love with respect and patience are gratifying. Similarly, it's good to stay clear of those events that antagonize those you care about--events as well as conversations that do not forward the good. Onward.