How do you deal with unpredictability?
As an educator and parent, I experienced a good share of unpredictability, but my days were mostly run by a fairly predictable schedule and routine. That schedule and routine enabled me to count on specific activities and get jobs done. Lately, as I support elderly relatives, the predictability factor is typically not present--I never know exactly what to expect. Is this good or not so good--I'm not sure.
On my caretaking days, I bring with me a to-do list of what I hope to get done as well as an open mind to respond to needs and desire that arise. Sometimes I hit it just right with a super visit and lots of good work, but other times, the daily rhythm just doesn't flow. This is where the priorities are integral. What really matters?
Humanity
What matters most is to be as humane and loving as possible. To make time for hugs, listening, being present, and showing affection is a top priority, The chores will eventually get done but the time for true affection and care is limited.
Chores
Some chores are more important than others, prioritizing the chores and making sure the most important activities are completed is most important.
Right responses
Listening to what is most important to my relatives is a top priority too--what do they want, and how can I help? This is about them, not me.
In many ways stepping into this chapter of life has found me in the midst of many new challenges and situations. I am learning a lot, and as with any new learning there is some discomfort, but stepping back and thinking about what matters most definitely helps. Onward.