Some of us, for all kinds of reasons, take the in-charge position no matter where we are. We do that for lots of reasons. For me, I believe I do that because I was the eldest sibling who had quite a bit of responsibility most of my life, so it's important to me to be in control--have things in order. Yet, sometimes it's better to just sit back and let yourself be loved. That means that rather than an in-charge position, you simply go along with the program and enjoy the love that's all around you. When we allow that to happen, we may be surprised at the peace and joy that follows. Onward.