Sometimes we may be baited and not know it. We may roll along taking one subtle hit after another until all of a sudden, we're frustrated. Why did we miss this? How can we do better?
One possible reason for missing the subtle baiting is that you simply expect the best of people. You don't expect people to play you for all the wrong reasons, but instead, expect their words to be honest, well meaning, collaborative, and with good intentions. Yet, sometimes people simply just pester you. Whether that's intentional or not, I don't know, but repetitive words and actions that lead nowhere and do no good simply bait others.
So, when you're receiving messages like that, you have some choices. First, I do think it's important to expect people to be well meaning and it's best to respond similarly. Then as the repetition continues and you wake up to the senselessness of the situation, you can change the way you respond. Begin with questions to find out what's really happening, and if that doesn't work, take some time out to reassess the situation. Often, in time, clarity comes and you can start again with a more positive communication pattern, typically a pattern that is best done in person rather than via digital if possible. And, it's rarely to never positive to mimic the pestering repetition or possible negativity you've experienced.
Taking the bait is a waste of energy--instead be more aware, stay clear of baiting, and spend your energy on more positive communication and efforts. Onward.