Caretaking is an endless proposition as what you can do for another is often limitless. So how do you decide what is reasonable?
With my children, that's simple. They only want me when they need me or haven't seen me in a while--they're independent, self directed, and living their own lives, but with other loved ones the question of what is reasonable is not that clear. So how do you decided?
Is the environment conducive for as much independence as possible?
Making sure the environment is conducive for as much independence as possible allows those you love to be as independent as possible--this is good for people of all ages.
Are their essential needs being met?
Assessing whether your loved ones essential needs are being met is critical too--do they have the food, clothes, social contact, health care and support they need to be safe and happy?
Is there a positive daily routine?
A positive daily routine can truly foster good health and greater happiness, and there are ways to foster that routine.
Caring for others involves many different stages and steps, and it's important to step back and consider the reasonableness and success of that care from time to time in order to revise as needed. Onward.