For some of us, there's a desire to control what we can't control. Why do we feel this way?
For example, I'd like to have better control over the behavior of some of my loved ones because sometimes I fear for their safety, but the reality is that they have to live their own lives and even if I had control, I still wouldn't be able to dictate what would happen. In fact, a caretaker told me a related story yesterday. It was a story about an elderly woman whose daughter thought she was unsafe so she moved the woman into her home only to find that a few days later, exactly what she feared happened in her own home. Even though she thought she was creating a safer environment, the truth was that the danger happened anyways--she couldn't prevent it as it was part of the illness her mother faced.
Sometimes we do have some control over matters in life, but often, we have no control at all. For example, as we watch the carnage in Ukraine--how much control does an ordinary person have related to that? Not much. We can exert the control we do have by speaking up and contributing with what we can do, but then we have to accept the fact that we have limited ability to impact the situation.
In general, the best control we have is control over our own actions and daily living--the more positive we live, the better we are able to help one another and impact positivity in the world. This is the best kind of control to stay focused on. Onward.