As life changes, the rules we follow change somewhat too. It is likely that we will hold on to the rules that represent our deepest values including rules about loving and caring for one another, telling the truth, and living a good life, but it's just as likely that we'll change the way we behave in other ways as the people, places, and events around us change.
One area where change occurs is how I engage with my young adult sons--they're on their own now and I'm not leading their lives as I did when they were young children and teens. I'm there if they need me and I love spending time with them, but they've embarked on their lives and I have to respect that in the way I spend time with them and the way I speak with and to them.
Another area of change has to do with my siblings. As the big sister, I often played a mother role in my home, but now they have their own lives and it's important to coordinate when we can as well as to respect the different ways we've chosen to live our lives. We're not the tight family group we once were, but we remain connected and continue to care about one another.
Some rule changes have to do with energy too--my energy is different than it was when I was a young twenty something and my interests have changed somewhat too. This requires some changes in the way I live life too. For example, I like to live my life in ways that optimize energy so I can do what I want to do--I don't want to waste time or energy.
As life changes so does the way we live it. If we can pay attention to these changes, we can make better choices about how we shift our choices and lifeways to live our best possible lives. Onward.