I've often disagreed with managers. Sometimes that hasn't been a problem at all since those managers were willing to sit down and discuss our differences, but at other times, when managers were more oppressive and less inclusive, these disagreements have been difficult and even suffocating.
What happens when I disagree with manager?
Typically disagreement arises when my vision differs from a manager's or my belief that an issue is critical differs from the manager's belief that the issue is not that important. The difference in urgency has often been at the root of my disagreement with managers.
How do I deal with these differences?
If the differences of opinion are not deep and impactful, I'll often let it go, but if the differences have the potential of gravely affecting a life or good living, I'll speak up and act. Once long ago, my opinion related to childcare differed greatly from a manager. I told the manager I would act whether he agreed or not because I felt a child's safety was in danger. After that discussion, the manager did act.
Most differences with managers have not been that stark. Instead there's a lot of gray matter that makes me have to think deeply about my opinion and what I'll do. In general, I am a fan of good collaboration with those you work with no matter their position, so rather than create strife, I'll work for good camaraderie and a group resolve. Sometimes, however, that's not possible and that's when the struggle occurs.
I'll think more on this issue in the days to come. In general, I'll follow these steps.
- Think carefully about your position
- When your position is challenged, take the challenge seriously--do your homework
- State your evidence and rationale for your point of view
- If there's no movement from the other side, make a decision about the importance of your position, and if your position is a must-do, figure out how you'll make that happen in a way that's as collegial, respectful and humane as possible.