We all may feel like a victim sometimes, and we may all actually be victims at times. Yet, when we consider the victim continuum, most of us don't fall on the far end of true victim--the kind of people who are brutally injured or killed. Many of us, however may face the smaller micro-aggressions that leave us feeling like victims. How do we respond to that role?
We can be the oh-woe-is-me, weepy victims who complain all the time--the kind of people who think they are the only ones to experience such struggle or we can be the kind of victims who recognize that everyone faces struggle and strife--the kind of people that while they acknowledge their tough times, they don't dwell on that. Instead, it's best to deal with your struggles with the supports you need and then move beyond that struggle to good living for yourself and others. This is a lot easier said than done.
When struggles are new and when you're not quite sure how to navigate the challenges, it may be easier to fall back on the victim oh-woe-is-me stance simply because you can be so lost in the fray. Yet, it's best to direct your energy towards lifting yourself up and over that struggle to a place of empathy for yourself and others and a will to embrace the good life has to offer.
Victim mentality is not attractive, in fact, that mentality typically repels rather than attracts, and to be repelled can make one feel even more like a victim--best to reach for as much acceptance as possible instead in ways that are positively true to yourself. Onward.