When met with relationship dilemmas of any kind, a good question to ask yourself is, What does a good friend do?
As I thought about multiple relationships past and present, this question came to mind. I thought about the many good and positive actions of friends and relatives over time.
Listening
Probably one of the best gifts any friend or loved one will give us is the gift of good listening. When a person truly listens to you, they give you the opportunity to air your issues freely. Simply being able to discuss what's on your mind to a good friend or loved one is a great gift.
Thoughtful, sensitive, honest, kind advice
Good friends and loved ones will kindly and sensitively offer advice when needed.
Comfort
In times of struggle or confusion, a good friend and loved one will offer comfort. They may send you a note, give you a call, invite you for dinner or go for a walk with you. They'll think about what it is that will bring you comfort during the struggle or confusion, and they will follow-through with action.
Promises kept
Good friends will keep their promises as much as they are able.
Acceptance
Good friends and loved ones will accept who you are even when you are not your best self. Though they may offer some sage advice if you make some troubling errors, they will not expect you to be perfect and allow you to live the life you're meant to live.
Respect
Respect is a key ingredient to strong friendships and relationships too.
Patience
To be patient especially in the midst of changing times and events is a signature characteristic of good friendships and loving relationships.
Caring gifts and surprises
Good friends and relations will often surprise us with a caring gift or special event simply to acknowledge and celebrate who we are by ourselves and together.
As I move along in life, I want to think about the question, What would a good friend do?, when met with relationship and friendship issues and opportunities. What else would you add to this list?