As families grow and change, the patterns we employ change too. I was in the habit of planning almost all details of family vacations, but now it needs to be a more collaborative process due to so many varying schedules, locations, interests, and responsibilities. So, trying to get a family event organized takes some good lead time as well as time to plan the event together. That time is worth is as there's nothing I like more than gathering with my closest family members in a beautiful location.
Patterns of voice, responsibility, and input change over time too. For example, in the past you may have had a lot to say about what close family members choose or do, but as your loved ones become more independent, you'll likely have less direct input since it's their life and their choices.
And, as family patterns change, you may find yourself reaching out more to people in your stage of life--people with the kind of time, schedule, budget, and interests you have--people who share similar pursuits and desires with regard to their time and engagement.
It's good to pay attention to these changing patterns and work to make the changes with as much respect and care as you can. These changes can be difficult because change is often hard, but it's the way of life and clearly best to embrace these changes with as much grace and positivity possible. Onward.