I wondered today if I am doing a good job for those I love? In fact, I even queried a loved one about this by asking what he needed and wanted. His needs were relatively simple, yet I believe there's more I can do to support this relative.
Are you doing a good job for those you love? Are you striking the balance that results in good care and loving connections?
Of course, for each person you love, what they need, want, and desire will be different. And, some will need more and some will need less. What we can do for others, in general, is limitless--there's always more we can do altogether, yet our time and energy are limited so we have to make good choices in this matter.
It's helpful to simply make a chart of your loved ones and actually write down what you can do for them as well as the frequency of that care. If you're in doubt, you can reach out to those loved ones and simply ask them what they want and need. Then it's time to get busy providing that care.
When caring for others it's important to make sure you're considering their needs and not projecting your own--that's a delicate area of loving support. At times, our enthusiasm may blind and deafen us to our loved ones' true desires and needs. Apt observation and listening will lead our efforts in positive ways.
Tonight, I'll make that list, then I'll make a schedule to make sure I'm caring for my loved ones in ways that matter. Onward.