Counter the hurt

 Sometimes people may hurt you. That hurt may be purposeful or inadvertent, but hurtful nevertheless. How can we counter that hurt in positive ways?

Give it time

Sometimes hurtful situations simply need time, and in time, it's easy to understand what happened and why that happened. To rush to conclusion or action, at times, may exasperate the hurt in more painful ways. 

Ask questions

If you feel comfortable, you may want to ask questions related to the hurt such as why did you do that or how could we have avoided that? Simple, nonjudgmental, straightforward questions can sometimes clear the air and mitigate the pain. 

Do the good possible

When hurt happens, sometimes simply doing a few good acts will turn the tide. 

Get underneath the hurt

It may be helpful to get underneath the hurt, understand where it is coming from, and figure out how to make amends or do better next time. 

Focus on other matters

Too much focus on hurtful situations may make the situations worse. Focusing on other matters may serve to alleviate the hurt and bring more happiness and positivity into your life. 

Be available

Let people know that you're there if they need you.

Understand that hurt will happen

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