How do we deal with friends who are unhappy? What can we do?
In the community I experienced an unhappy person recently. I've known this person for some time, and in general even though she does all she can to be happy, there is an unhappy aura that surrounds her. I find myself reacting to that aura in multiple ways. Sometimes I want to solve it. Other times I become unhappy too. And there are times, that I want to blame her for not making the kind of change that will make her happy.
What do we do when we are with an unhappy friend? Can we help? How can we help?
Of course, that answer varies. I suspect that this community member didn't have the best childhood. I suspect that she was not always loved and cared for in the ways that give you happy life ways. Her unhappiness is not related to a singular issue, but instead it's likely due to some hurtful neglect early in life. For this person, I think the best I can do is be a good friend when time and place allow. She is a good person who does a lot for others.
Other unhappy situations are often related to single events--it's easier in some ways to help out a person like this. You can be there for them, ask them what they need, listen, and meet their needs if possible.
And there are those who seem to not help themselves at all--the kind of people that seem to continually navigate their life ships into unhappy waters. They are the Eeyore's around us. A bit of humor often goes a long way with people like this.
If an individual's unhappiness is grave and greatly worrisome, you can always reach out to the authorities to try to get them help. In extreme situations, hospitalization and therapies may be necessary.
No one wants to be unhappy and most of us are troubled when we see a friend in need. It's important to understand the issue as much as you can and help out in respectful, kind, and caring ways. Onward.