A loved one of mine has been very ill for some time. She's been so ill that I've thought that death was around the corner many times. I find myself looking up the signs of death on the Internet and assessing her condition. I've consulted the experts who agree that death could occur at anytime. Yesterday she simply wanted to hold my hand and lean against my shoulder as we listened to music we both enjoy. I was teary as we quietly sat together. I spoke some comforting words of love and encouragement. I was happy for this intimate moment.
My loved one has had a very long and good life--a life filled with wonderful people, positive activity, and lots of love. The challenges she faced in life are similar to challenges most people in life face, and she weathered those challenges time and again always with a positive attitude and a will to live fully.
How much longer will this "long goodbye" last and during this time, what can I do to help? These are questions that move through my mind during my visits and support.
I know I'm not the first to experience the "long goodbye." I've read and heard many accounts of similar experiences. Today as I step away from the situation for a few days, I'll think about what may come and how I'll react. People say that you're never really prepared for the death of a loved one, and I'll head those words with respect. Onward.