A long time ago I belonged to a friend group when the group turned on one member. During an event, the member of the group acted very strange. The group didn't agree with her behavior and they turned on her. Sadly, I went along with the group. I wasn't at the event. I didn't observe the behavior. But, I also didn't reach out to my friend to see how she was doing or find out what was really going on. Looking back, it must have been a very painful event for my friend. Years later, when I knew better, I did reach out, but it was too late. My friend had moved on.
Recently, I had a similar experience. A group I belong to essentially ousted me. My behavior in a particular situation was very different from my friends' behavior. I saw the situation differently from the group and acted likewise. I tried to get the group to see it from my perspective, but they clearly didn't respect my viewpoint or related actions. I've thought a lot about this. I believe that my friends and I were coming at this situation from very different backgrounds, experiences, time, and mindsets. Honestly, I don't think it's a situation of one is right and one is wrong, but more of a situation of coming at the endeavor from different places. As I think back to that friend experience long ago, the truth was that the person ousted had taken a very different life path than the others in the group, and that likely led to the break-up.
Our life experiences differ and there will be forks in the road where we may take one path while our friends take another. This is not a situation of right or wrong, but instead a situation of being in different places at the same time. Rather than fight the change, I think it's good to accept the different paths with peace. In time your roads may meet up again or not, but this is part of the journey of life--a journey when people intersect with us in all kinds of ways. Some walk with us, some encourage our journey, some act as positive challenges, some walk ahead of us and some take different paths. When we embrace the journey's multi-faceted design, we live richer and better lives. Onward.