I know that I'll never forget Mom, but I also never want to forget the valuable lessons she imparted via her actions and words. So hear goes.
Look good
It was important to Mom that you looked good. She loved to shop and put together just-right-outfits for any occasion. When you see pictures of us as little children, you'll notice the great outfits we had on. As we grew into our older and more independent selves, Mom had less control over what we wore. Looking good was important to Mom.
Enjoy the stage you're in
Mom imparted this lesson time and again. She was forever aware of life's changing stages and came to the conclusion that every stage had its special qualities and you should enjoy the stage you're in as you'll never be in that stage again.
Everyone lives their own life
Mom cautioned us about telling anyone else what to do as she always said, "Everyone lives their own life." As she watched her many, many relatives and friends embark on multiple, diverse life journeys, she respected their individuality and the various paths they traveled.
Have a good time
Mom loved to have a good time. She enjoyed every aspect of entertaining from planning the event to inviting the guests to preparing the home and table to cooking a delicious meal to the party activities including bridge games, conversation, sing-a-longs, thematic parties to dressing up and more. Upon her death, Mom would certainly advise people to enjoy life.
Love the one you're with
Mom always said, "You can love many, but you choose one." Mom and dad would kid each other at the dinner table about their many "boyfriends" and "girlfriends" in the community recognizing that from time to time you could get a crush or be the object of a crush on someone other than your spouse or partner. That teasing was fun and funny signaling Mom's message, "You can love many, but you choose one." Mom chose Dad and they were married and devoted to each other for 70 years.
Be friendly
Mom was always a friendly person who enjoyed connecting with everyone she met. She loved getting to know people's stories with interest and warmth.
Tolerance
Mom accepted you -- she didn't think there was one way to live.
I'm sure more of Mom's lessons will occur to me in the days ahead, but these are some of her valuable lessons I want to hold on to and bring forth in my own life.