Happy Thanksgiving 2022

This year's Thanksgiving table

 As Thanksgiving rounds the corner, I am thinking about Thanksgivings past and present. Over my long life I've experienced a range of Thanksgiving festivity, joy, and drama too. I'm sure I'm not alone in this regard. 

Thanksgiving drama for the most part was the result of the effects of too-much alcohol, tough times, or weather events. One Thanksgiving during my early days was marked by a relative's alcoholism--he acted erratically creating great angst amongst everyone at the table. I was especially troubled by this as I had a very different expectation of that gathering. We lived through it and when I experienced another, somewhat similar event years later, I was better prepared. I don't need to say that alcohol does not take main stage when I host Thanksgiving yet many of us enjoy a nice glass of wine and perhaps a special holiday cocktail too. 

Drama related to family sensitivity and events has occurred too. Thanksgiving is not a good time to discuss the delicate issues that may separate us or impact our good living. Instead it's better to focus on the theme of gratitude during Thanksgiving and all the events, people, and other aspects of life that we are grateful for. Essentially a focus on shared good times past, present, and future is a good focus. 

That said, there was one Thanksgiving that was particularly moving. A family member was clearly nearing death. Her illness was apparent and very sad. One family member acknowledged this family member's importance and strength during his toast. We were all teary, and the very ill family member was clearly moved by the acknowledgement. It was a loving, moving, dramatic Thanksgiving moment. 

As for weather, I can only remember one Thanksgiving when weather changed our plans. We had an early snowstorm that meant our celebration only included the family members who lived in our home. There was a special intimacy and some enjoyable snow play too that day. 

Every year Thanksgiving looks a little different depending on family members' lives, lifestyles, and obligations. This year we expect to gather with 14 family members and friends. My husband and I are busy preparing our home by cleaning-up, decorating, shopping, and cooking. The guests are bringing all kinds of delicious foods to share. In the morning, many will engage in outdoor hikes and adventures. Then in the afternoon, we'll begin with drinks and appetizers, then the big meal, and after that the clean-up, conversation, and games. Finally, after the clean-up, we'll serve dessert. Some may watch the football game, play Scrabble, take a walk with the dogs present, or simply relax. 

For my part, I'll do what I can to make the holiday warm and welcoming. I'm looking forward to the festivities ahead. Please share any ideas or experiences you may have about Thanksgiving too--the more we can share the good possible, the better.