There was a time in my life when I had a well of anger that erupted from time to time. It took me years to dissect where this anger was coming from and how to deal with it. The truth is that the anger had deep and understandable routes--if you looked at my anger map, you would agree that anger was an inevitable emotion, and you would also agree that anger does us little good.
If you have a well of anger inside, I encourage you to dissect that anger to find out its source and how to deal with it. Once I figured out the source via lots of reading, some counseling, and lots of reflection, I was able to begin diluting and understanding that anger. As the anger became more understandable and less powerful, my life and relations improved. Now, when anger arises, I'm able to quickly figure out where it's coming from and how to react in positive ways.
Anger is an important emotion and we can't bury it or discount it. Instead we have to understand what anger is saying to us and what we can do about it. When we meet up with people who are angry, we have to have compassion because generally anger is routed in tough times, misunderstanding, and/or a lack of love. We have to listen to angry people and try to understand what they are saying via their words and emotions. Of course if the anger is too-great and worrisome, we may want to put some distance between us and the angry people as sometimes anger results in abuse and violence.
I remember one time a long time ago when I spoke angrily at another person. That person had no compassion for me and treated me poorly. Of course, my anger made the person uncomfortable and upset, yet if that person had some compassion for me instead, I would not have had to experience such a hardship. Instead, my path to dissecting and understanding my anger would have been quicker. When I meet with angry people, I think about that. I realize that their anger has deep, disconcerting routes, and I try to be as helpful and compassionate as I can be. Of course, sometimes the anger is so great that people are not ready to get better or understand that anger.
Like every emotion, anger has a life of its own. When we feel anger, it's a wake-up call that something is not right--it's a signal that we have to think deeply about what's going on and figure out a better path ahead. Onward.