Loss creates energy within us, and that energy leads us to act in some way. Yesterday on my way to a cousins' holiday party, I found myself thinking of my mom, grandparents, and aunts and uncles who have passed away. They were a loving crew who hosted countless celebrations for us throughout life. They created a happy, robust, spirited family culture amongst my 56 first cousins, and we all look back on our good times together with happiness. That's why we continue to meet-up throughout the year to continue the tradition our parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles started so long ago.
During the party many remarked about the old days and many acknowledged the sadness they felt due to the loss of those we loved so much. We recounted stories of the old days and the foods we shared were foods that had been apart of our family parties for decades such as Aunt Betty's delicious snow capped chocolate-whipped cream cupcakes and thumbprint cookies. We also acknowledged how grateful we were to have such a strong and loving family culture and enjoyed some good laughs, renewed and new connections, and warmth.
As I think about the emotions the holidays bring, I am thinking about the ways we use the energy that loss creates in us in positive, proactive ways. The best way to use that energy, I believe, is to bring forth the good that the people lost brought into your life. For example at yesterday's party many of my cousins brought their daughters, and by sharing the event with those young people, we were able to pass on the traditions our parents and other relatives so lovingly shared with us. That was a good way to use the energy that loss brings into our lives. So as the holidays continue I'll continue to turn the emotion of loss into bringing forth the best of who my loved ones were in ways that keep them alive in spirit and acknowledging the gift they were to me and others. Onward.