A loved one has the early-mid-stages of Alzheimer's. He's lost his short-term memory and therefore lives in the moment. When I'm with this loved one, I want our time to be positive, and that aim has me thinking about how you make the moment you're in positive. This is good work for a planner like me since I can sometimes live too much in the past or future missing the moment I'm in.
So, what can I do to create positive present moments--what matters?
Engaging activity
As much as possible, focusing on engaging activities is positive. Engaging activity fills us with happiness and positivity.
Warm, welcoming, inspiring spaces
Spending time in warm, welcoming, inspiring spaces is positive too. Creating and finding spaces like this is a good aim in this regard.
Positivity
Positive words, stories, music, and exchanges of any kind makes our time together happy. Yesterday when I arrived, I was not as positive as I usually am, and I noticed how this had a negative effect on my friend. It's important to bring my most positive energy and self to our times together.
When loved ones live in the moment, you want those moments to be as uplifting, enriching, and positive as possible. It's good for all of us to focus on the present too as don't really know what's ahead. This reflection renews my commitment to making our shared moments as positive as possible. Onward.