As life changes, relationships will change too. As those relationships change, we'll want to remake the places for those relationships in our life. I read a lot about that last night, and the one message that resonated is that it should be a last resort to totally to cut ties with anyone in your life. Instead, think about what it is you like about those people and your relationship, and find a new place for those people in your life.
How can we find new places for relationships in our lives? What can we do?
As I thought about this, I thought about a very positive person I know who continually revised relationships in her life in positive ways. She's a good model of keeping relationships strong while changing the ways those relationships work.
So as you think about recalibrating those relationships, do the the following.
List all the good about the person you're considering and your relationship with that person
Take time out to think about all the good that person has brought and still brings to your life. Honor that good.
Imagine how that person sees and thinks of you
When relationships falter it's usually a two-way street. Think about what that person probably thinks about you and how you've contributed to the relationship snag. If possible, talk that over with the person. If not possible, think on your own how you'll make changes to change and improve the relationship.
Take it one step at a time
Put the changes to work and take it one step at a time. Review and revise as you go along.
Hopefully by recalibrating your relationships thoughtfully, those relationships will endure the changes life brings. Onward.