With every choice, there is some loss because none of us can be everything or do everything--we all face limitations in life.
This reality occurred to me when I received a letter from an old friend in the mail. While the letter brought back many positive memories, the letter also reminded me of some difficult decisions I made over time. Those decisions were difficult because I didn't have the optimal leadership, mentoring, knowledge, or capacity to make the best possible decisions in that arena. I was learning and I was stretched in far too many directions, thus some less than optimal decisions--decisions that led to both gain and loss.
Yet, every decision creates some loss. When you choose to marry and love one, you are also choosing to stop dating and loving many. When you choose to work while parenting, you choose to lose some time with your children, however, in my case, it was a choice to create a better life for my children--the wins outweighed the losses. When you choose to leave a job, you choose to leave a culture you were apart of and regular contact with your colleagues. We can't be all and do all, and when we invest our time, energy, and capacity into specific spheres, we are choosing not to invest in other areas of life.
So when making any decision, you have to consult the wins and losses of that decision to see which outweighs the other both in the present and the future. That's one of the best ways to make a good decision. Onward.