Who do people want you to be?

 As I thought about what I can do for my loved ones, I realized that the best gift I can give them right now is to be the person they want me to be. Why is this a  good gift? It's a good gift because who they want me to be is good for me and good for them--it's a win-win at this point in my life. So how do I fulfill this desire?

First, specifically outline who this person is, what she does, and what she doesn't do.

Next, make a plan to arrive at that destination.

And then, stick to it. 

Onward.