At any age, we have the potential to develop who we are for ourselves, for our loved ones, and for our world. No matter how old we are, we likely have gnawing personal desires for development. I've been thinking about this topic as I engage in the ever changing world around me. Who am I for the world? Who am I for my own life, and the lives of those I love?
Self reflection is a constant for many of us as we go along our days, days impacted by our own choices, the choices of others, and the fluidity of the world around us. What can we hope for? What do we envision? What work do we have to do?
A few big changes in the lives of loved ones have energized this reflection lately--changes that are not easy, but that are well thought out.
How can we develop ourselves in ways that leave us with peace and fufillment with regard to who we are for ourselves, others, and our world? What do we need to do?
As I think about this, and the death of a loved one from our extended family, I first realize that we have to reach out to, be in contact with, and support those we love we our best selves. We can't let too much time or too many inconsequential, unimportant, or unloving events get in the way of the good relationships we enjoy. When death occurs, it is always a reminder that we have to cherish the moments we have with the people we love.
I'm also thinking about the fact that we have to embrace the imperfections of life and the fact that we can't be all things to all people. As our lives roll along there will be times when we can fully support one another and times where we are called in directions different from one another. That is the way of life, and in that way, there is imperfection.
And, of course, the ever present need to prioritize--to do what is most important to you and the people you love, and to contribute in ways that better the world around us. No one wants to carry the weight of poor choices and actions, but instead we are far better off, listening and observing the signs around us--signs that help us to be the best people we can be.
No matter who we are or how old we are, we have the opportunity to learn and grow in ways that bring us fufillment and peace as well as allow us to be there in helpful, loving ways for those we care about. How will you develop? In what ways, will you do this? I'll be thinking about this more as the day progresses. Onward.